(KUTV) Salt Lake City - Any parent knows how irritating a child whining can be. Clair Mellenthin is a play therapist who joined Kari & Brooke on Fresh Living to share 5 of the most effective responses to whining.
"Research suggests that people tend to experience whining, which peaks when kids are between 2 and 4 years old, as “one of the most distracting sounds on the planet,” and view it as more annoying than a screeching sound on wood, crying, heavy drilling, or other uncomfortable nails-on-a-chalkboard type sounds. Kids may whine because they lack the ability or words to ask for help.
5 Strategies for Parents:
- Ask yourself "Is my child hungry, tired, stressed, or scared right now"? Then act with compassion
- Ask yourself, "Am I stressed, hungry, tired, or scared right now"? Kids may whine to get attention or connection from their parents.
- Remind yourself that whining can be your child's way of expressing their emotions or feelings. Remember to "name it to tame it"
- Some children are born with a more sensitive temperment and may overwhelm easily. Set the pace of the day's activities that are manageable for both of you
- Avoid reinforcing whining by being consistent and not giving in “once in a while” to things like extra time on a video game, an extra toy in the supermarket, or an extra late bedtime, which stops whining in the moment, but reinforces it for the long-term.
This segment is based on the blog post https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/joyful-parenting/201712/5-the-most-effective-responses-kids-whining."