(CNN) The holidays are supposed to be fun, but for many parents it's a time of stress and aggravation.

But there is a way to beat the pressure and enjoy the season with your spouse and family.

Sometimes our relationships seem as turbulent as those in the sitcom “Modern Family.”

But if we disagree in a healthy way, this can help keep us together. However, it takes a lot of work.

"Look at conflict as a way to say, how can we come up with new solutions? You know, what do I need to learn, what do I need to give here?" Clinical psychologist Dr. Mark Crawford said.

Being selfish or being right doesn't get you much, instead try to overlook faults and forgive.

It's worth it because good relationships can help keep us healthy.

“Mortality rates are lower for people who have good, established, meaningful relationships. Your spouse is going to be on you, about, you know, you need to stop smoking, don't eat that, don't drink so much, go to the doctor,” Dr. Crawford said.

And when the going gets tough, "It's very easy to let the things that bug you about the other person take center stage, so you really need to remind yourself on a continual basis, these are the things that I admire, appreciate, probably take for granted,” Dr. Crawford remarked.

Remember to make time for the activities you enjoy together and be sure to communicate with each other.

And if you are mad, take a time out to calm down and then sit down and talk.
Keys To Staying Together